…kindred spririts

Like Anne of Green Gables and Diana, I feel like we are kindred spirits.

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I think you may find that my new lifestyle blog is more of me...and you! Maybe not everything will be relatable because after all we are individuals, but the last few posts I've written have you in mind! My first was how to create a blog, the second velvet pumpkins and today's post was about building a brunch! Christen Bensten Lifestyle will mirror many of the things I talked about on Blue Egg Brown Nest, but with more - more style, more books, more food/recipes, more decor.

I can't wait to see you over there! xo

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I'm going to shamelessly lure you with rainbow sprinkled donuts (from my brunch post)

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…invitation

Friends!

I am here to invite you to a very, dear and special event called my life. I've shared years with you all and now I want to be closer to you! I want to talk to you about books and food and health and style. I want to tell you what I'm thinking and what I am interested in in the hopes that we can share our life experiences in a more intimate way.

I have created a lifestyle blog, Christen Bensten, and it is a project that I'm excited about because I get to share more. I am not leaving Blue Egg Brown Nest in the dust, but rather adding to my joy!

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I am a very curious person and somewhere in my 30s I realized that this is a precious gift. I not only care about all the wide world has to offer, but I want to participate in it! As a recovering shy girl I want to play too! I feel so strongly about this project that I hired a designer even before the kick off. I am still adding, editing and working out some kinks, but we are live!

I hope you will join me. You have known me for years and have been dear friends, you know a bit about my likes and dislikes. Let's get to know more about each other. You may not identify with everything, but I hope it becomes a place where we can meet over our computers and a steamy cup of tea in the afternoons. Here is your invitation:

Christen Bensten 

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Deep blessings to you all.

CB

…lessons from an anti-hero

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You guys, sometimes I am so sucked in by beautiful people doing beautiful things wearing beautiful clothes and smiling beautiful smiles. I see them in magazines, on Facebook, Access Hollywood, the news and every where we turn. I can't seem to get away from beautiful, successful people and frankly, I don't want to see it all the time because I then start using them as a measuring stick to where and what I am supposed to be and it sucks up so much air in my space that I can't just like what I want to like and smile the way I already do smile. It all makes me feel like I am supposed to fix something broken about me - like I better buy more and do more and say more because what I am right here in this moment is clearly not enough because it does not look the same as what they are doing over there.

Please tell me you feel me. How could you not?

I don't blame us because we are saturated with all these messages telling us that we are not fine just as we are. Before I start sounding too cliche, let me introduce to you my hero if you have not met. My anti hero. Lena Dunham. Let me caveat this by saying that her show Girls is not for everyone. Its raw and raunchy at times and can even be too much for me, but I'm not talking about the show as much as I'm talking about Hannah, the protagonist.

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When I say I'm taking lessons from her, I'm totally serious. She is unapologetic for who she is. She is often misguided, totally irreverent, quasi childish and often inappropriate. But, she is also beautifully sensitive and in tune to what works for her despite the pressures around her. She does not even seem to let these influences affect her unless it comes in the form of her relationships, which she is often entangled emotionally. She cares deeply, talks bravely and moves through the world at her own speed, albeit often at a zig zag.

I find myself thinking about Hannah in the moments that I question myself or find myself trying too hard or shaming myself for not being something that looks more pleasing than what I present to the world. At the end of the day, no one is really is paying that much attention, are they? At the end of the day, it's truly how I feel and what I take away from the experience. I think if we let others see our disheveled, human side more often I think we could make deeper, more meaningful connections, but also rid ourselves of the constant shame that we are the way we are. What if the way we are in all of our imperfectness is what will really set us apart from all that is perfectly beautiful and therefore lead us to live a more authentic life? Maybe the tide would turn? Or maybe it wouldn't. But, maybe we could at least feel a bit more comfortable in our less than perfect skin and hair and enjoy the feeling of wearing something that we like vs. what someone else may think is beautiful.

I get it, Hannah. I get the too short shirts, the wide jeans, the cutout red swimwear, the exasperation, the analyzing, the parents, the tattoos and the cake. I want that cake and I will eat it all too.

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