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This week I worked on stating my needs in therapy. In all honesty, I do not know how to do this. I am so overly concerned with how a statement like this would come out of my mouth. Would I sound mean? Entitled? Rude? Assuming? Obnoxious?

Yes to all of the above.

I would sound like all of these to myself. But why? I have met many a’ people who have no issue with asking for what they want and to be honest, I'm always a bit perplexed when I see it happening. It is so foreign to me, but it works for them...and they get their needs me too! How about that?!

How about you?

What would it look like if you took a day to just state what you wanted; what you liked without worry that someone around you was going to judge or shame you or worse - try to get you to like what they like! What if you were able to be so confident in yourself, your style and your taste that you could throw back your shoulders just a bit and say, "Yes, I want the lavender-colored nail polish." I think that it would be a signal to your brain that are worthy and important enough not to ask for permission to get what you wanted and maybe, just maybe you would do it again and again until you got really good and were able to speak your mind and your own thoughts all the time. The world would get to know you and although not everyone would appreciate you, at least YOU would know that today you were wholly yourself.

...and your nails would always look damn good.

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“I’ve only been painting furniture for about a year (you’re my main inspiration) however I often feel like a bit of a fraud.” – Melissa

Dear Melissa,

Thank you so much for your vulnerability. I think we all feel like frauds at least a few times every single day. I know that when I lay down my yoga mat and pretend like I am trying to get into Crow pose, I'm really just trying not to fall on my face. Quite literally.

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I think there is something to the phrase " Fake it 'Til you make it." It sounds trite, but I do think it's a way to trick our brains into believing that we go this. When we don't feel confident many times it is based on how we think others will perceive us. We are worried that they will find fault, be disappointed or even turn and run from us. We are scared of the rejection that we could potentially see in someone's face and we don't want to feel that pain. I know I don't.

My advice to you, Melissa, is to practice, practice, practice at what you are trying to become good at. Then when you are ready to show the world what you have been working on, act like you've been doing it your whole life. If you fumble and can't answer a question, it doesn't mean that you are a phoney, it just gives you an opportunity to say "Hmm, I really don't know." And there are many smart, successful people that really don't know everything either.

The good news for you is that art is open to interpretation. When I started out I used lots of dark wax. The past 2 years I have not used dark wax once. But, I look back on those images of those pieces and I love them still. It worked and they carried their own look.

When you are ready to sell I want you to stand confidently next to your work. Make sure the craftsmanship is always the best it can be (this is one place not to leave to chance) and then tie a price tag on it and know that it is worth someone else's money and space.

Namaste.

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…zaha hadid love.

In a past life, before babies and paint, I worked in the design industry in marketing. It was the perfect place for me to land because I can really appreciate all things created out of necessity and puzzled together until the perfect solution is brought to fruition in a real, live building or space.

Architecture stems from a need and then travels through the minds of talented people to become something beautiful and functional. It is practicality meeting the impractical - at least that is what really cool, memorable design means to me.

I think it is worth highlighting the designs of a talent that went too soon yesterday. Zaha Hadid.

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I definitely think this kind of design requires talent meeting opportunity meeting a good dose of luck. I mean, what designer does not want to create memorable, high-end design? There is so much that goes into getting a building actually built. Kind of like art or theater or fashion - all the good stuff. Her work is all that architecture should be and in a very male-dominated profession, she was regarded as the greatest female architect in the world to date. She is worth our attention and admiration.

Here's a look at some amazing images.

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And to all my architect friends, I think of you often and wish I could pop in to hear your thoughts today.