Dear Therapist and I have talked many times over the years about the concept of rupture & repair. Relationships are tricky with each of us having a history, a conscience, opinions, doubts, fears, and ambitions. It’s little wonder that during our days we have little ruptures with people. Little earthquakes. They could be disagreements, arguments or out and out fights. There is a motion to relationships because each one of us is filled with so many moving parts. There is movement in what we feel. And so like the tide moving back out, we repair. We encounter the person again and lend a smile or have a hard conversation or make a plan. We repair.
I find it very comforting to know that there is a rhythm to relating. I bring this up because many of you reacted to my post “Roar” in which I expressed my frustration towards a comment written to me. I used my voice to stand up for myself and you rallied around me.
That night I received an email different from your hurrahs. It was from said person. She was apologizing and asking for forgiveness. Absolutely, I said. Done.
And it was done.
Once again I was reminded that we can feel really, really strong emotion and have a crack in the earth; a split; a rupture. And in the next wave all is wiped clean and we repair. We go on and spin around into our other relationships where the tide is just as strong and we rupture, repair there as well. It’s the motion of these two that on one hand we can have a total disconnect and then come together. I think there is solice in that we are all involved in this push and pull.
I wanted all my friends & allies to know.