…more rust-oleum and deepak chopra

Yes. To all those that commented after yesterday’s post on Rust-Oleum. I agree that you get what you pay for and I agree that this paint is not the same quality as Annie Sloan. It is sadly and unfortunately just not as good (I have other thoughts about the Rust-Oleum Topcoat so stay tuned). BUT, I also get so many emails about how expensive Chalk Paint is and I do think it is often out of people’s budget at almost $40 a pint. I don’t want money holding anyone back from painting over that drab furniture and not transforming your space and ultimately your mood. This is most important to me.

Painting furniture is all well in good, but I want to deepen it with you. I really do believe that you deserve a beautiful environment. We work so very hard out there in the world and are constantly battling other personalities and events that push and pull us and every once in a while knock us down. I want you to rest in a place that is pleasing and calm. I think a space can really change our mood. I have been know to leave a restaurant if I do not feel comfortable in the environment…or I just hate the color of the linens. Let me explain. As a mom of three active kids, I do not get out to dinner much with Dear Husband so when I do I want it to be worth putting on make-up and paying for a babysitter. What is around me is how I FEEEEEEL inside.Yes, it’s slightly embarrassing to DH, but I want to sit in Lovely. I realize that I am a sensory person, but I got to believe that if we are surround with beauty then we will feel special and, maybe, beautiful ourselves.

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This is the feeling I want for all my sweet readers. I want you to know that you deserve beauty in your life and I think your space can lift you up and prepare you for what the world holds outside it’s walls. So, if money is going to hold you back from changing your space, don’t let it. Get it where you can. If it’s a spray can or a half open can of wall paint that’s been sitting on your garage, let’s move forward creating beauty and creating new lives.

Okay, that sounds a bit lofty, I know. But as someone that is trying to live wholeheartedly (as defined by the beloved Brene Brown) I think finding rest in our space is a good first step to self care. And guess what, self care and compassion is the most important thing that you can do for yourself and for your family. If you put off finding peace in your body and your mind, you may lose the opportunity for contentment in your daily life.

DS (Dear Sister) sent me this amazing reminder via Deepak Chopra this very morning.

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How good is that?! To me, this means that thinking I can just plow through my life doing and doing more and it’s not going to take a toll on my body is so misguided. It all works together. My stressed out thoughts will have an effect on how my body works and runs. I am naive to not remember this always. But, before I shame myself, I will have compassion and remind myself that this is a practice. Every day is another opportunity to practice rest and creating beauty because we all deserve it.

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…rust-oleum chalked?

I haven’t left you! Just have a few projects in the hopper that take me away from writing, but know you always have my heart 🙂

Okay, you know how I feel about my Annie Sloan paint, right? Love it to the moon and back. So, when a friend and fellow vendor asked me to help out with her client’s pieces and told me she was using a product found in Home Depot, I was a bit curious. I am totally open to trying new products and comparing. I was really interested in seeing howRust-Oleum Chalked held up.

Here is Sue, from the Treasured Hunt, and I the day we were neighbors at Luckett’s Spring Market a few years ago. I love meeting sweet people doing the same thing I am. It’s a lovely, little community.

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And here is the paint that she was using for the pieces.

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Sue was working with Linen White and since I was to match her pieces, I used it as well. You can find this paint at Home Depot online as well. The paint is for refinishing furniture just as ASCP. This Linen White is comparable to Pure White. Here’s what it looked like when I cracked the paint open. The texture is similar, but not as thick.

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This is what a first coat looks like.

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You may notice that it is a bit more thin than other paints. This was the biggest difference. I know some painters like to water down or spray their paint to smooth it out so this may be a good choice for you. Here is another look at a first coat on a bit of a relief area.

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I ended up doing two coats and touch ups. I also used the Rust-Oleum Topcoat, which I will discuss tomorrow. Here are the results.

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You will see that it looks very similar. I did find that the paint does not settle like ASCP so you will see more paint lines. You will always have paint lines when you paint pieces, but I found that theRust-Oleum paint did not diminish at all. Not a deal breaker, but just something to be aware of.

My thoughts?

Rust-Oleum Chalked runs about $13 a can, which is way cheaper in comparison to Annie Sloan, which is $38 a can. It looks similar to other furniture paints, but it handles a bit different. It is more thin and does not settle after applied. These are not necessarily negatives unless you prefer the feel of a thicker paint, which I do. You can sand down some of these lines and that will help. You may also need a few more coats.

Tomorrow I will show you how the top coat works.

 

 

 

…lessons from an anti-hero

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You guys, sometimes I am so sucked in by beautiful people doing beautiful things wearing beautiful clothes and smiling beautiful smiles. I see them in magazines, on Facebook, Access Hollywood, the news and every where we turn. I can’t seem to get away from beautiful, successful people and frankly, I don’t want to see it all the time because I then start using them as a measuring stick to where and what I am supposed to be and it sucks up so much air in my space that I can’t just like what I want to like and smile the way I already do smile. It all makes me feel like I am supposed to fix something broken about me – like I better buy more and do more and say more because what I am right here in this moment is clearly not enough because it does not look the same as what they are doing over there.

Please tell me you feel me. How could you not?

I don’t blame us because we are saturated with all these messages telling us that we are not fine just as we are. Before I start sounding too cliche, let me introduce to you my hero if you have not met. My anti hero. Lena Dunham. Let me caveat this by saying that her show Girls is not for everyone. Its raw and raunchy at times and can even be too much for me, but I’m not talking about the show as much as I’m talking about Hannah, the protagonist.

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When I say I’m taking lessons from her, I’m totally serious. She is unapologetic for who she is. She is often misguided, totally irreverent, quasi childish and often inappropriate. But, she is also beautifully sensitive and in tune to what works for her despite the pressures around her. She does not even seem to let these influences affect her unless it comes in the form of her relationships, which she is often entangled emotionally. She cares deeply, talks bravely and moves through the world at her own speed, albeit often at a zig zag.

I find myself thinking about Hannah in the moments that I question myself or find myself trying too hard or shaming myself for not being something that looks more pleasing than what I present to the world. At the end of the day, no one is really is paying that much attention, are they? At the end of the day, it’s truly how I feel and what I take away from the experience. I think if we let others see our disheveled, human side more often I think we could make deeper, more meaningful connections, but also rid ourselves of the constant shame that we are the way we are. What if the way we are in all of our imperfectness is what will really set us apart from all that is perfectly beautiful and therefore lead us to live a more authentic life? Maybe the tide would turn? Or maybe it wouldn’t. But, maybe we could at least feel a bit more comfortable in our less than perfect skin and hair and enjoy the feeling of wearing something that we like vs. what someone else may think is beautiful.

I get it, Hannah. I get the too short shirts, the wide jeans, the cutout red swimwear, the exasperation, the analyzing, the parents, the tattoos and the cake. I want that cake and I will eat it all too.

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