This is the second year in a row where, dare I say, I kinda hate Christmas. There. I said it.
I love seeing friends, entertaining, baking cookies for preschool, reading books for the kindergarteners, watching ballet performances, Christmas pageants, buying gifts, wrapping said gifts and attending parties. I do. Just not all within a three week time-period.
Then I have the added pressure of my work. I never want Blue Egg to be pressure. I want it to be a release from pressure. Can our small businesses be safe from pressure and deadlines? Hmmmm. I have been doing this for over 5 years and I am not sure we can block ourselves from the demands.
I learned last week from my DT (Dear Therapist) that when we do not put boundaries in place then those feelings of being pushed around and trampled on still come out. There is relief in this because hopefully it will give us permission to set the boundary and say “No” or “Stop” or “Wait” if we know that we will eventually have to say these things. It’s like our emotions and body have to take over for us when our words fail us. They take charge and say, “If you are not going to do this for Christen, then I am going to.” And things come out like frustration, crankiness, and even anger.
How can we avoid these yucky feelings when all we want to do is enjoy the Christmas lights and hot chocolate? I am not very good at this, but I believe that the answer is to just say no. You put all those jobs and plans on the calendar thinking, “I can rally. It will be fun.” Then the deadline comes and it’s “I. Just. Can’t. Do. It. All.” Our bodies shut down, we get colds and the dreaded stomach bug. Our bodies are so smart, aren’t they? They can reject plans when we can’t do it ourselves.
Thank you, Body.
I thought I was going to do it all right this year by scheduling painting jobs out. I did that. But, I didn’t do that with my personal life and now here I sit just wanting to curl up on the couch with my sniffily nose and watch Hoda & Kathie Lee talk about how wear winter white. Can’t I just do that?
What if I said, “Body, I got this one. You don’t have to feel miserable for me to say no this time. I can do this and not worry about disappointing everyone.”
Yes. I think I have some emails to send and some calls to make. You do too, Friend.
(I saw this during my weekly run to Whole Foods for tea & soup and had to snap a pic!)