Jealousy. I totally get it. We are human and we have human bits to us that we are told to fight against. But, I can’t help but think we need to normalize some of these dark bits and bring them into the light. We all have the very same ones, don’t we? Jealous, envy, anger, bitterness, sadness, unworthiness, etc. Shaming ourselves from feeling them or having someone else shake a finger at us and say “No!” to them, well, it doesn’t work. It just makes us feel like there is something wrong with us for feeling these things. Jesus didn’t feel these things while here because of the whole Son of God thing, but he certainly hung out with people that felt them. Hung out and loved on them, encouraged them with love. Ahhh, what a perfect way to deal with these parts of ourselves. Love.
If you are doing something creative, then there are people all around you that are doing it too or have done it in the past or will do it in the future. They may be doing it better than you. They may have more money than you to accomplish more. They may have more space. They may have more time. They may have more help. They may have more ideas. They may have more support.
If someone else’s success is making you feel suffocated, take a few days off from looking at what they are doing. Then go back and try to learn something. Everyone’s process is different. Everyone has something different to give. We can work towards a goal made for ourselves. The goal should not be to catch up with the other person you are envying. It should be to create the best you can create.
It’s hard and can feel unfair. Have your moment of stomping your feet and throwing a few pillows around. Then refocus. It’s not about THEM. It’s about YOU. How do you look at the details of your craft? How can you do it a bit differently? If someone else is using a technique you like and they share it – great!
John Lennon said, “Medicore artists borrow, great artists steal.” JOHN LENNON SAID THIS. One of the worlds most amazing song writers EVER. I’d like to think that he meant that artist steal ideas and motivation by breathing them in and learning from them, not simply having them scratch the surface. It’s kind of like how the color of a very special egg and a nest can inspire me.